We ALL have secrets that we have buried deep within and feel we cannot unlock and release. Through this blog this past year I have turned that key and unlocked quite a significant chunk of my life. It really is such a release and so much healing happens when we ‘let go’ of certain pieces of us that were causing pain, fear and discomfort. I definitely don’t look back.
I’m sure we all feel that there are certain stories, pieces that could not be disclosed as they are far too dreadful, shameful, embarrassing etc I’m also pretty sure that that is what you have made yourself believe and that little voice in your head has told you. I often find it so comforting and reassuring when I do open up and share some pieces of me with others especially those I trust and those that show loyalty, often they too can relate and even share a very similar story.
I sometimes feel that I am the only person that feels a particular way, has this ‘problem’, experienced a situation that caused pain etc but anymore I believe that it’s mostly due to the fact that we are all so reluctant to open up to the world, share our stories and the simple art of conversation is dying. Perhaps that is why we feel we hold so many secrets and that we are sonewhat of a ‘freak’. We don’t actually talk anymore and certainly meaningful conversations are few.
The most important thing in human relationships is conversation but people are too caught up with social media and ‘chatting’ through a screen. What has happened to face to face conversations? How can you truly know how another is feeling without seeing the emotion in their eyes and the spirit of their soul? Too often we can take messages up wrong, we presume a certain tone when we really cannot judge as it is through a text message, an email, a snapchat etc Again so many wires can be crossed due to the fact that you are not physically in each other’s company chatting.
As Paulo Coelho states:
“If we want to change the world we’ve got to go back to a time when warriors would gather around a fire and tell stories”
We ALL have some secrets. Some secrets are serious, some are funny & playful and some are soulful. I often wonder at what age do children learn to have secrets and understand the meaning of secrets. I love the innocence that children have when they have no filter that sorts out what they should say and what they shouldn’t say. It is raw honesty. When do we loose this? I try to return to that raw honesty in my life as long as it is for the correct reasons and to not hurt anyone intentionally.
A friend of mine brought my attention to an initiative called “PostSecrets” last week. I had never heard of it but once I found out what it entails and the foundation of this project I instantaneously loved the idea. Frank Warren invented this community mail art project, in 2005, in which people mail their secrets anonymously on a homemade postcard. Selected secrets are then posted on the PostSecret website, or used for PostSecret’s books or museum exhibits. The concept of the project was that completely anonymous people decorate a postcard and portray a secret that they had never previously revealed. No restrictions are made on the content of the secret; only that it must be completely truthful and must never have been spoken before.
The results were phenomenal, his simple idea became extremely powerful and popular all around the world. People felt it was an outlet to offload some of their most hidden secrets. One can be riddled with guilt if holding on to a secret for many years that cause them stress and shame, one can be embarrassed about a phobia/a health issue/a childhood story etc It can be as simple or as complex as the anonymous person wishes to disclose. These are some of my favourite:
In my opinion we all love the notion of being told somebody’s secret. Are you trustworthy enough to hear a secret and keep it? In my opinion we all need some outlet whether it’s a person, a letter to oneself or another etc It’s good to ‘share’ these secrets at some point and to release them from within. You might even find that there are plenty of others that share the same secret!
For me personally the biggest ‘secret’ I shared in my life has got to be the fact that I am adopted. It was never a secret for me growing up but to this day a lot of people who have known of me for years are still shocked to hear this information. It’s not as though I was ever ashamed of this fact it was more the fact that I didn’t feel like I had to wear a label or shout it from the rooftops! I didn’t want it to define me! I have plenty more that are not on such a ‘big’ level!
What’s YOUR secret?
“Spill your Secrets,
They’re not Your Weakness,
They’re Your Uniqueness!”
I’d love to read some of your secrets anonymously and share a follow up blog on the findings! If you feel like creating an anonymous email you can send your secret to: