All too often I fall into the trap of being too conscious and aware of what other’s opinions are of me, if they accept me and think highly of me or not. When really this is completely out of my control, I can’t make anyone think a particular way about me, that’s up to that individual.
Don’t we then waste an awful lot of time and energy worrying about this and trying to change it? Unnecessarily? This type of thinking is riddled with fear – the fear of rejection, the fear of not being accepted or worthy/good enough. I lived this way all too often. We can’t be everyone’s cup of tea otherwise the world would be a very boring, monotonous and common place.
While listening to a podcast this morning I heard the comment that if someone thinks you’re a tree or a surfboard, do you allow that to shape you’re image of yourself? Of course you don’t because that’s ludicrous and not possible. But this is NO different to others opinions of you whether it be that you’re selfish, ugly, mean etc Once again it is their mind, their thoughts and it’s not necessarily reality.
I’m fascinated by how others can shape our own beliefs of what we know to be true for ourselves. All too often I’d feel lousy, disheartened and not good enough based on reactions/actions/thoughts/silence of others. When in fact I don’t ever fully know what is 100% true for another, how another completely feels or why they feel/think that particular way.
Imagine all the energy and time you spend thinking on this that could be instead spent on telling and reminding yourself of all the wonderful, positive and loving facts you know to be true for you!
Try today to talk gently to yourself, to not allow others thoughts/opinions shape what you feel and think about yourself.
“I Let Go
Of What I Can’t Know
I Hold Dearly
What I See Clearly”