In Giving We Receive πŸŽ

Are you all set for Christmas? Have you all your gifts bought? What kinds of gifts are you giving others this year?

A friend of mine told me a story how his teacher friend asked his class to think of ways that they could give to their family and friends without spending money. I love this idea and what a wonderful thought to provoke in school age children to think outside the box (literally!!) of ways to show love, friendship, kindness, appreciation without using money.

I can’t say that I haven’t spent a few bob on Christmas gifts this year however I did take the approach of wanting to ‘spend’ time together as a way of giving. For example myself, my sister and our neighbour have decided to spend a day at a spa together over the holidays as we don’t get many chances to do things together or spend some quality time together. I bought tickets for the Peter Pan Panto for myself, my niece and nephew so to bring them on a day out that they’ll remember and hopefully treasure. The gift is not within the materialistic present wrapped up nicely under the tree it really is within the time you share with another.

I don’t particularly enjoy Christmas much anymore, I’m not a Scrooge I just miss my Mam during the build up, the excitement and buzz around the shops. I fondly remember how we used to take the bus to Dublin every year as children with Mam and go for our annual day trip shopping. Arnotts was the highlight for me!! I miss having her here on Christmas morning to share a little baileys with, to toast Christmas together. We have that empty chair at the dinner table where she used to sit and take command as the head seat!! Christmas can’t be the same but we can make it about a time for giving: giving memories, giving hugs & love, giving laughs, giving new opportunities to remember.

As Francis of Assisi said

What gift could you give this Christmas time that would make a difference, show your love, cause a repair in a relationship, show support and create a transformation?

“In Giving We Receive,

It does take for You to Believe!

Give some Time

Give some Love

Don’t Give Up

That Someone

Might just be Enough!

Enough to Mend

No need to Spend

In Giving ‘You’

You might just Change

Their View”

(Deirdre Ward)

My Worst Critic!! πŸ‘©πŸ»πŸ€­πŸ€«

What do you tell yourself? How do you speak to yourself? Honestly, don’t lie!! If you heard your own dialogue played back to you, those inner thoughts/chatter and self-talk, would you hear words of love, of gentleness, of kindness or would it sound harsh, negative and unloving? Maybe it changes on different days? Mine certainly does and more often than not it can be that harsh, unloving voice that I hear. Isn’t it awful? Why does this happen? How does this happen?

I know I would never speak to anyone else how I at times speak to myself. We really are our own worst critics. If I wouldn’t treat anyone else this way, even those that perhaps ‘deserve it’ why then do I deserve it? Why is it there is one set of rules for others and a different for myself?

Does this chatter happen to you? Yesterday evening was no exception for me. I received these professional photos of myself that had been taken a week ago, by an extremely talented photographer. Here’s a snippet of what my chatter was like:

“Your face looks bloated and fat”

“Your hair is frizzy”

“You’ve wrinkles around your eyes and on your forehead”

“Your teeth aren’t straight or white enough”

“Those broad shoulders”

Literally these were the comments that I had circling round and round in my mind within a minute. That’s how quickly we can self-deprecate, knock ourselves down, beat ourselves up and be left feeling worthless, not good enough and completely shitty! It’s like an automated response at times, the flick of a switch. Not ALL the time might I add because believe it or not I do try my hardest to stop this chatter, to see my worth, my uniqueness and my beauty.

I called a friend because I was feeling shitty! It didn’t matter yesterday what she said to me I wasn’t accepting that these photos were in anyway nice. Thankfully I have the most amazing friends and she helped me to cop on, to put things into perspective, to ‘see‘ more clearly. Funny, as the one part of me that I do absolutely LOVE are my eyes!! I need to wipe them and start to see what truly matters.

I’ll tell you:

I love the saying that beauty is not skin deep. Because yes I might have some wrinkles around my eyes and on my forehead but they are my laughter lines when I have had moments of joy, happiness and love. Those lines represent the worries, stress and fears I felt at different times in my life. Those fears that I overcame, sorrows that have made me appreciate life and how I am not willing to waste a single moment. They mark the face pulling auntie with her niece and nephews!

That frizzy and at times unruly hair is a combination of the curls I had as a young child mixed with the years of using the famous iron to straighten my hair for those teenage discos!! πŸ˜±πŸš’ It’s the fringe I decided to cut myself at the age of 13. My hairdressing days were short lived let me tell you!!!

Those teeth that aren’t in a complete straight line, well they’re the teeth you moved slightly because you were so fond of sucking your thumb and still hadn’t enough by the age of 20!! πŸ€·πŸ»β€β™€οΈ

Those broad shoulders? The same shoulders that defended your team at the All Ireland Basketball competitions, that kept you strong running races and that helped hold you up when you’ve felt like falling?

So… now you see why we need to stop this negative and degrading self-chatter and replace it with positive, appreciative, meaningful and loving words. It can change your entire outlook, mood and energy in a split second. Do you choose to focus on the feel good factor or to be dragged down by the dull and heavy baggage we tie to ourselves at times? Because it is in our control and it is our decision.

“Look Beyond

See Deeper Within –

It’s Not just the Outer Skin!

True Beauty Lies

& Multiplies

Once you begin to

Recognise”

(Deirdre Ward)

ATTENTION!!!! πŸ—£πŸš¨

Do we really pay enough attention to each other? To ourselves? To life around us? Or are we too busy ploughing through the day, too busy to say hi, too busy to look around at all that lives, too busy to pay attention?

I know I always haven’t in the past but it is something I try my best to do a little bit more of each day. I try to pay attention to those I meet, the company I’m in, pay attention to myself, how I’m feeling and as difficult as I find it at times to really figure out my mood/mind each day. Is it upbeat, excited or do I feel down in the dumps and why? The WHY being the key!

Surely with all the new technologies, Facebook, Instagram, Tinder (did I just mention Tinder?!) yes been there done that, failed miserably ha, not for me!!!πŸ˜‚πŸ™ˆπŸ™…πŸ»β€β™€οΈwe do get distracted, paying attention has turned more to a screen, photos online and profiles of oneself/others. This isn’t paying ATTENTION. 🀳🏻❌

TRUE attention requires eye contact, it oozes with compassion and connection. It feels ALIVE. This feeling that I LOVE hit me out of the blue yesterday and at no better time than when working with a child during Play Therapy. My favourite moments. Exactly why I love my job. #UNLOCK. Play Therapy is connection, it is showing and communicating that you’re fully present and with the other. Why can’t this be shown and given each moment of the day? To yourself & to others.

“Hold the GazeYou’ll be Amazed How Much You See!Of Course no GuaranteeThe Key?Simply ‘Be’! (Deirdre Ward)

UNLOCK πŸ—

What makes you YOU? Have you ever thought about this question? How are you uniquely different to everybody else? What are those traits that set you apart?

With the ongoing emphasis on media, celebrity lives, those trends and who’s ‘current’ etc it can be hard to not loose sight of who you are, your goals, values and what you want to bring to your life/achieve in your life. I for one admit yes for so long I compared myself to others (I still do at times), I undervalued who I was and what I add to this world.

It’s funny how life pushes and challenges you out of your comfort zone at particular times. For me lately I have really been ‘tested’ and most definitely pushed past that point of comfort but yes ALL for wonderful reasons, opportunities and learning.

In light of these various challenges it has made me question more who I am, what I offer and how I am set apart from ‘all the rest’. It has added a confidence and an inner belief that was waiting to be unlocked and set free.

Those roots that were planted from day one have strengthened, have risen and are finally BLOOMING! 🌹

Don’t be discouraged when you’re challenged and seem to be ‘tested’, it’s for a reason, it’s helping you be YOU!

“See those Roots

Allow them to Shoot

No need to Hide

Take Pride!

Decide

To Bravely Step ‘Outside'”

(Deirdre Ward)

Be YOU 🌟

Have you ever just taken a moment to look around you at a room full of people, a bus full, a busy street of people coming/going? You won’t find two people the exact same no matter hard you look! 

Isn’t that the wonderful thing about this world? We are ALL so different and unique. I don’t think we remind ourselves of this fact enough. Too often we are looking at famous people, at impressionable and iconic people within our communities, at our friends etc to try to become more like them, to adapt our ways, our style, our thinking and so on. Yes that can be a positive thing especially if the person you’re admiring and comparing yourself to has fantastic values, a flare for fashion, the best advice for relationships or whatever the case may be but ultimately we were born and put on this Earth for the fact that we are all different, can offer varying ideas/advice to the world. 

Too often I would look at others and truth be told at times feel jealous about a job that somebody has, the relationship that someone is in, the external beauty and figure another has etc I think we can all own up for doing this at some point? Yesterday I was very lucky and grateful to attend a meeting with The Donegal Enterprise Office in conjunction with Ireland’s Best Young Entrepreneur. There were approximately 31 diverse people from varying backgrounds and professions within one room, all present to share their unique idea and to be in with a chance of successfully making it through to the Bootcamp stage for the competition. 

While listening and chatting with some of the group it really hit home how unique we all are and how each one of us in OUR own way has special gifts and ideas. Why try to compare? In some instances it is utterly impossible and ridiculous to compare with another, I couldn’t begin to compare my ideas with my “Be Free” Programme to a fella wanting to import camper vans from China! I was amazed and fascinated at the range of extremely diverse ideas within a small group yesterday and also within a similar age band. If this is what can bloom and flourish from a minute fraction of the Nations population Oh My!, what possibilities this world holds? What gifts lie within so many others out there? 

Don’t always try to compare with others, see the beauty within those people and the gifts they have. And for God’s sake take that moment to just stop, look into your own mirror and acknowledge your own set of gifts, your uniqueness and strive to become the BEST version of YOU! Nobody else will. 

“Be YOU

Just YOU

Not a game of ‘Guess Who’ 

The ONLY one that Knows

How To? 

Is YOU!”

(Deirdre Ward) 

My Medjugorje πŸ’›

What’s it like? What signs did you see? Is it very spiritual? To sum up Medjugorje in words is extremely difficult, one could even say impossible. It is a feeling, an experience that touches the heart and soul. Therefore this will be short! 

Three years ago I set off on my first pilgrimage to Medjugorje not having any idea of what to expect or what it would entail. Last week I visited this special place for the second time. I remember on that first trip somebody saying they were going ‘home’ when travelling to Medjugorje. At the time I couldn’t help but think it seemed a little strange as surely no place could replace your actual home. While there last week I understood what this lady meant and I too knew what home felt like. It is home.

Why home? Well home for me is somewhere that is peaceful, some place that is full of love, surrounded by those people you love and that show their love, where happiness exists, friendliness and where my troubles and worries are nowhere to be found. It’s funny as, as I write this I’m grinning as I know fine rightly that I did not feel and experience all those lovely sensations constantly while there. It’s not all roses!! 🌹 I won’t lie!

I can only speak about my experience. I spent 9days in total this trip. I initially felt elated at being back, seeing old friends that I had met there previously and I was so grateful for being back. As the days went on it’s like being put through a jar of pick & mix sweets. You don’t know what you’re going to get when you put your hand in for a sweet! Each day brought new emotions, frequently each day brought a wide variety of emotions, one minute feeling peace the next feeling unsettled. It can even seem like torture and I know I questioned why? Surely this holy land should bring healing and peace instead of turmoil and torture? 

Sadly I don’t think so! Sure isn’t it true what they say – “no pain, no gain”. For healing and peace to come doesn’t it make sense that there must be some upheaval within? Some self reflection? Some hard and harsh realities to hit home? Some pain? I recall the first trip having had some amazing ‘signs’ and I was so blessed to have had them. I remember sharing the stories when I got home and still do to this day. This time however I went with the promise to myself to not ask for any ‘signs’, to not get carried away by people’s stories of the sun dancing, the smell of roses or any other miraculous sightings. This is not to say for a second that they don’t happen or that I don’t believe in them because I most certainly do. I didn’t want to go ‘in search’ of anything, I wanted to feel with my heart and soul instead of see with my eyes, smell with my nose or hear with my ears. I believe fully therefore I don’t need visible proof.

Did I ‘feel’ anything? Most definitely. After around day 5 the peace was beginning to fill my being. I forgot worries, fears, concerns that I had while at home in Ireland, that this home seemed to help diminish. This home sparked a pep in my step, a joy to my laughter and Deirdre truly smiled from her heart while there. It’s not like a spell was cast on me, it’s through the people I met, their life experiences/stories they shared that made me smile, that made me feel their pain, their hardships but what brought the smile to my face was their faith, their gratitude, their openness to me and to life. The simplicity, the power and the sheer comfort that prayer adds to life is on full show. Even if somebody isn’t themselves involved in prayer; being surrounded by faith, by music, by nature and belief brings healing and light to all those around. 

Words are not enough to describe this beautiful land, the love that fills your heart and the peace that fills your mind. You need to experience it and feel it for yourself. If you have faith and you believe in God, and even if you don’t and decide to go out of curiosity I guarantee you that you too will get the ‘feeling’ and understand why words are inadequate.

“Happy are those who have not seen and yet believe” 

Believe with your heart & soul, as these are your instruments to feel. 

“Look Within

Not with your Eyes 

Go Beyond your sense of Sight!

Feel the Love 

Feel the Peace 

On this Land 

You’ll Feel at Ease! 

Have Faith

BELIEVE

And You’ll Receive 

Graces & Blessings

A Life with Less Stressing! 

(Deirdre Ward) 



“It’s Nice to be Nice”Β 

Doesn’t it take very little to be nice, show someone you care, express love and gratitude to another yet why do I not see it happening or experience it enough? 

I love nothing more than a big bear hug. Yes I am available at any moment for a big, warm, loving squeeze! Will I have a que in Darney this evening??!!!! Don’t ALL rush here at once. 

A couple of weeks ago I received one out of the blue by someobody who took me by surprise and it hit me as to how such a simple gesture that costs nothing can mean so much and give you something that money can’t buy – love and warmth. That day I felt I needed that hug, to feel valued and to feel needed in life. It came at just the perfect time. It felt wonderful.

Why don’t we hug each other more? Why do I stop myself at times before giving someone a hug questioning whether they’ll want a hug and whether it’ll backfire? Why are we SO afraid to touch? Surely everyone enjoys that embrace and that feeling of love? If not, why not? Does it matter if it backfires? 

I remember distinctly the first time I noticed how smiling can be infectious. It was while I was in Medjugorje. The warmth from people was special and something I can say I had not felt before on such a huge scale. Everyone seemed to be friendly, say hi, give you the time of day, be interested in who you are as a person and most beautifully everyone seemed to look you straight in the eyes and smile while walking past. I felt loved, acknowledged and that I had a very special place on this Earth. It became so natural during that week but let me tell you it was soon knocked out of me upon returning back to Ireland. People did not make eye contact walking down the street, few said hello, a smile seemed like something foreign and so many held their heads down looking at the ground. Why? Too busy to talk? Too stressed out and pressured to look around at the world and the beauty that exists? Too unhappy to smile? Too afraid to catch the gaze of another person?

It really affected me and made me angry and it definitely was such a struggle to fit back into ‘reality’ of where I lived! Come to think of it I am wondering this instant was it reality or had it been MY reality? Were my eyes just opened to those possibilities while in Medjugorje? Was I the one who had my eyes closed all along? I’m not sure if I know the answer to that question. 

Again I can remember receiving smiles at those times when they meant so much – that random stranger in the car park who had the most beautiful warm smile that made my day brighter and helped put me in better humour. Never underestimate the power of a smile. 

I completed this page from my ‘Be Free‘ Programme last night and came up with some of the ways I try to show my love and kindness. It doesn’t take much time, effort or money to show you care and to express your love. It usually is the simple things that can have the biggest effect. You never know who might just need that simple gesture at that very moment. 

“A Smile, A Hug

A Message of Love.

The Riches of Life

Can Arise 

By the Gaze of One’s Eyes!

Not Money, Not Gold

Can Express or Hold

The Same Power & Weight

That Love can Create”

(Deirdre Ward) 

Piece by PieceΒ 

I loved this image once I saw it. What is your first impression/thought when you look at it? 

My initial reaction was that it conveys how at times in life we can give too much of ourselves away to others, wanting to help, wanting to ‘fix’ their misssing piece but in the process depleting ourselves. 

I know all too well the feeling of giving to others until there is very little left within and I feel completely exhausted and drained.  This can be very dangerous for our health. What I have learned is that once this happens you are no use to anybody else or yourself at this stage. I know my own warning signs from being there all too often – exhaustion, mind feeling fuzzy, frustration/irritation builds up, skin breakouts. 

There’s nothing I love more than to help others, to offer advice, support, love, hugs, a shoulder to cry on etc It’s important to be that somebody to others so whenever you may need it in return you’ll always have somebody there to hold you up, show you love/affection etc 

Then it struck me that this image is also about how when we do give selflessly we never know when or how we may be filling a huge missing piece for somebody. Filling it by means of helping them to reach that point, to find their pieces and to help them complete themselves within. 

It is nice to be nice, just be mindful to not be taken advantage of, a Balance of giving and receiving must be in place. 

NOBODY can change another, the only person I can change is MYSELF. Make the changes necessary for you and your life to reach peace, love and happiness. Be Complete. 

“Treat Others as You Want to be Treated,

Give to Others, 

Give to Yourself.

Those Pieces will be Filled,

It’s not a Skill

It’s YOUR ‘Will’!

(Deirdre Ward) 



 

“Remember Me”

In November we Remember” 

This month is especially dedicated to remembering all those loved ones that have moved on from this life. It is fast approaching December, the Christmas decorations are filling the shops, people are busy buying those presents for the festive season and at times it can all become very stressful. 

Over the weekend and in the last week or two I seem to have had conversations with people that have lost loved ones and for some of these it will be a first Christmas without a special person in their life. At times we can forget how lonely and sad Christmas can be for some people/families. It is a season to celebrate the family and the love that we have for each other. It’s totally understandable how it can be very difficult and lonely when there is that empty seat for dinnertime and that gift that’s not needed to be bought etc We can forget this. 

I heard the song above only last night for the first time. I loved the simplicity of the lyrics and how true each line is. I’m sure we have all felt alone at times, miss those loved ones that have left (living or passed) we can also miss those that are still living but feel/are a thousand miles away from us. It doesn’t always take death to feel like someone is ‘gone’ and has left. Do we need to say ‘Sorry’ and make amends with someone? Again Christmas can be challenging for those who have gone through marriage/relationship breakups, family/friendship feuds etc 

It is a matter of faith and belief whether or not you believe those loved ones have totally ‘gone’ from this life or not. For me personally I know those special people are with me EACH and EVERY day. Yes there’s times when I feel they’ve left and are not guiding and protecting me. Thankfully this feeling doesn’t come often or last very long. They make it their business to give me that special little sign of a feather, a song on the radio that reminds me of them, a person to cross my path that seems coincidental etc There are many ways we are constantly reminded of their presence, the question is whether your eyes are open and your open to noticing them or not. Things don’t usually happen just out of coincidence/an instance of good timing, I feel these moments are perfectly orchestrated by those that want to send us a loving message, to restore our faith and to give us their love. Keep an open mind and you might just begin to see those little signs of love! 

You never know who may be thinking of and remembering you in their thoughts today. In my opinion it can be so powerful to think that someone might be remembering/thinking of you and perhaps you too are thinking of that exact person. As stated the world can work in funny ways! 

This Christmas take time out to really remember those loved ones that have left this world, perhaps call on someone you know who has lost that somebody and may be feeling lonely and sad. Make a conscious effort today to be open to those little signs from your loved ones as gentle reminders that they’re never truly gone, they will always remain right by your side. 

“There’s time when you Feel 

You cannot make it Through.

Look Up, look Down

Look ALL Around

There’s Always Someone 

Right there with YOU” 

(Deirdre Ward) 

JoyπŸ’›

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I attempted this drawing yesterday evening after receiving the most beautiful and heartfelt letter unexpectedly. I will try to explain my reasoning behind the drawing! I also must admit that I didn’t allow myself to use an eraser (which was extremely difficult for me!! I can be quite the perfectionist especially when it comes to something creative!) Hence the fact it is no Van Gough! I had to put up with the imperfections and I had to change and tweek the appearance of parts. It was an experience to say the least ha ha but it actually didn’t annoy me or cause frustration, I just went with it! Something we can all do in life also – go with the flow and not overthink! Also another lesson I am currently trying to learn as much as I can : to realise that we are all only human and have many imperfections and to not always try so hard to erase them but to love them and live with them.

Why a lighthouse? It is a symbol of guidance. It is that ‘safe harbour’ that we are all in search of. It is a sign that the destination is in sight. Glowing with warmth and light, encapsulating us when feeling cold and alone.

We all experience stormy weather, where one can feel like there is no way of reaching the land and that safe harbour we desire to anchor at. Too often we can feel like we are ‘drowning’ in this raging sea, fighting the pounding waves over one’s head. Unable to breathe, water filling one’s lungs every second, one’s breathing becoming faster and tighter. We can get used to living ‘underneath the surface’, feeling trapped by the raging current and barely surviving.

In my drawing I intentionally drew the light from the lighthouse with a dim hue. The sun is another source of ‘light’ for those that need guidance and brightness in life. It provides warmth and helps us see. It, like the lighthouse can help us out of the raging waters, the cold icy feelings and fill us with warmth, a glow and lead us into the light.

The reason I connected both with the red heart and in my opinion it is the heart which stands out the most from the drawing is because I believe no matter what other ‘sources’ of light are around us and within reach, the light we have to truly find is that flicker within us. No matter how dead, lifeless, helpless and truly ‘light-less’ one feels it is my opinion that there is always a small flicker of light deep within the heart and soul. We are made from light and love so this light is inextinguishable. Yes it may feel like you are certainly not shining or perhaps may never shine again but trust that somewhere deep within that flicker remains burning no matter how many attempts life makes at extinguishing it. Perhaps you yourself have tried to bury that light forever?

Yes these other sources of light and other people’s light can lift us, guide us and set that spark off, fuel the fire within us but ultimately it is our own source of light, our own flicker that we need to find, to spark brightly, to feel alive and to live joyfully. It never extinguishes. After the body leaves this Earth this light remains shining, glowing and warming the Earth.

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“The Flicker of Light Remains

Forever in one’s Heart;

It is a constant Burning Glow

Right from the Start!

Raging Storms,

Strong Currents,

Crashing Waves

Will try to Destroy

Tireless their Efforts

All Because of Joy!”

 (Deirdre Ward)

In Solitude We Find Ourselves & Others πŸ’—

Do you take time out of your busy day to sit with your thoughts? Do you distract yourself by keeping busy to avoid having to sit with these thoughts and to hear that inner voice? Memories, mistakes, guilt may surface that can cause pain and heartache so perhaps never slowing down and quietening that mind keeps one safe and away from harm? Perhaps you do take time out for you, to tap into one’s thoughts and emotions and to see one’s mind, hear one’s heart and feel one’s gut. 

I have always loved my own space and time alone for myself to reflect and identify where I’m at! I understand that we are all different and unique however I do feel no matter what, it is important for us all to take this time to connect with oneself and be in solitude. 

Balance is key. I love being around people, meeting new people and catching up with old friends. At times in the past and still today certain social settings/situations/groups would intimidate me, make me feel slightly anxious and nervous. Why? Because of an inner confidence and belief that is lacking at times. Not all the time and like I’ve mentioned not in every context, around all people. These are personal insecurities and allowing power and control to be taken from within and handed to others. I believe we all fall victim of this scenario at some stage in life. Is that to say that you don’t believe in yourself or see the beauty within? No, I believe it’s that others can also see the beauty within you and at times try to suck it out of you and try to take a piece of it for themselves! Some people sadly are greedy and greed can take over one’s mind, can cause people to be ungenuine and fake. We are all energy therefore I really believe in people’s energies having a huge influence on others whether a positive one or negative. Of course we would all love to be surrounded by positive energy at all times but this is impossible: life, circumstances affect us all and our energies are impacted.

Some of us fear this solitude and the feeling of being alone. I too can admit that yes at times I fear being alone and can feel rather lonely at times. I am aware that I need to work on myself further (I don’t believe we ever cease to work on oneself!) to rid this feeling within. We can panic when we look at our age, see friends settling down with partners, moving on in their careers, starting families etc It can really cause anxiety and fear. That’s when that inner voice can affect you and cause a sense of fear to manifest. It is only natural to feel this way. The important thing is to not allow this fear and these worries to take control and be part of your nature. 

Feel those thoughts, feel those fears, don’t hide from them or run from them. Identify those thoughts when in solitude and in silence, then move on and free your mind. 

I know I’ve preached previously about how one needs to love oneself before another can. I do still believe in this however I also believe we need love from others in life just as much and even to help us see the love within to its full extent. Us humans, we are social beings so enjoy your solitude but always surround yourself with those of love and light also πŸ‘©β€β€οΈβ€πŸ‘© πŸ’‘ πŸ‘¨β€β€οΈβ€πŸ‘¨

Open Your Heart to Love & Light πŸ’–β˜€οΈ

What does FAITH mean to you? 


In this piece today I am not going to preach to you about religion or the fact that you must believe in God or any other being, that is not my right to impose a belief on another. All I urge you to do is question what you do believe in or what the word faith means to you. 

Yesterday evening I went with a dear friend of mine whom I had travelled to Medjugorje with over two years ago, to see the documentary made entitled “Apparition Hill“. Seven very different people with varying circumstances were chosen (a mother battling cancer, a father with A.L.S., two atheists, a skeptic, a single father of 9, a struggling addict & a triumphant return) to go to Medjugorje and to come to a conclusion for themselves what this holy place means to them, or doesn’t as the case may be! 

I found it fascinating to listen to the vast differences of opinions from the group but one strong connection bound them together in my opinion. It was openness, an openness to go to Medjugorje, to gain a first hand experience of the place and to extract whatever meaning for themselves personally. It was really lovely to see how close the group’s relationship grew as the days passed and how each individual grew in empathy, love, support and understanding for one another. Did Medjugorje cure the woman from cancer and the man from A.L.S? Did it convert the two atheists? You’ll have to go watch it to find out!! 

What is evident at the end of the documentary is that it did in fact a lot more than this for these people. It strengthened their faith and belief in a power that is beyond comprehensible to the human mind, it deepened the love they feel for themselves and for one another and it created hope where perhaps it was lacking/missing beforehand. Would one call these effects miraculous? Again that depends on one’s faith/belief.

Having experienced it myself and watching the documentary yesterday evening it brought back such fond memories for me and a hunger has developed within to return in the near future. It is most difficult to describe in words to another the experience that is Medjugorje. There is an extreme sense of peace, of reassurance and of love there. People are open and friendly. Although a lot of sorrow & pain can be evident from those around that are suffering physically/internally there remains a tranquility and an air of brighter days to come. 

They say coincidences happen there, that the sun does strange and mysterious things, that images can be seen in the sun/moon etc I have mentioned before in previous posts about the beautiful signs I received most significantly in relation to butterflies. Smaller coincidences happened also for example a lady I met who was left speechless that I was wearing the exact same engagement band that she had lost years previously. (Mine was my mothers) not the typical engagement ring but one with 3 diamonds in the shape of stars and no there was no way it was the same ring! I saw so many familiar faces while there that reminded me of people from home or people I felt I had met before! Are these coincidences? Again it is based on one’s belief. 


A photo I took randomly of the sun and once home while flicking through them noticed how it looks like an angel walking on the sun! Again it depends on what one’s eyes can see or will allow you to see! 


Without my faith and belief I honestly don’t know how I would have gotten through various challenges and struggles I have faced so far in my life. I know that tough times will face me in the future. What if I haven’t got many others around for support? What if I have struggles I’ve to face on my own? That is where MY faith comes into play. It saddens me to see how faith seems to be diminishing and how there is a lack of importance placed on belief. When all else fails what will you turn to? I believe in the power of prayer, whether that is saying a whole rosary a day, a simple prayer each day or even just to bless oneself each day, we all have our own ways. I guarantee you it’ll help you through those tougher days. 

“Be open: open to life, open to love, open to something more powerful that is above” (Deirdre Ward) 

Feel Your LifeΒ 


The power of touch is massive. Touch has such healing qualities no matter what age one is or what experiences one has had. Of course in certain situations a deep trust has to be formed, however the smallest moment of physical contact can leave a huge impact. 

I am a person who loves contact with those that I feel connected to. A simple gesture of a hug, a hand on one’s arm to express love and care. I feel I can usually gage those that will respond well to a gesture like this and those that won’t. Of course at times I’ve also gotten it wrong!! (Awkward!!!) We begin our lives needing that tender, physical contact with those people in one’s environment to create and develop strong bonds so why would that change as one gets older? 

Recently I have started going for reflexology. Now bare in mind I’m not the biggest lover of feet or a stranger touching my own feet! I’ve been to only 4 sessions and I absolutely love it! I’m also a person that would at times find it difficult to relax and de-stress. I am improving and finding my own techniques to help me. I am totally overwhelmed that after approximately 5minutes into a reflexology session my whole body goes limp and is in total relaxation. All from someone touching and massaging my feet?! I do believe that the person plays a huge part in this experience. The refelxologist I go to has a beautiful energy, a calming presence and makes one feel at ease straight away so of course this plays a big part! 

Again in any relationship between two people this sense of trust, love and care makes touch a loving and powerful encounter communicated between each other. Personally I can’t help but be brought back to that ‘inner child’ within me needing that touch and energy that communicates love. If you think of how much babies love a little soft massage and it helps them feel relaxed and protected. The same goes for us at 28years of age and on! 

Yesterday while having my session I also wondered to myself if many males attend and have this self care and time out for themselves? I feel again it’s society imposing norms and classifying us into categories. I hope that many males would not be opposed to the idea of massage, reflexology etc as it hugely benefits everyone. We need to look after ourselves to feel love, to feel life. 

Think of those relationships you do have in life. If you’re in a loving relationship with a partner their touch can send sparks firing through your body, warmth can be radiated from one to another and one can feel love and affection. Connections are formed through touch. Energy is communicated before touch also which is most powerful. I love meeting people where you instantaneously feel a bond whether it’s through eye contact, a smile, a hand shake etc Every one of us carries our own unique energy and that is shared out to everyone we meet. We are all intricately connected. Some of these energies we will run towards some we will run away from! 

Touch can be a source of love, joy, wisdom, life so don’t run once you feel the connection. It adds to one’s vitality and is innate to the essence of each and every one of us.

So many situations and moments slip through one’s fingertips, this can be out of fear, fear of getting close, fear of hurting oneself and another, fear of the ‘unknown’. Why have regrets? 

“Live in Fear 

Or

Feel Your Life?” 

(Deirdre Ward) 

“The People Make A Place”

I met a lovely friend for a coffee and a catch up yesterday. She isn’t from Ireland and I was intrigued to hear about the various similarities and differences in her life compared to mine. It is so fascinating and educating to hear about another country’s ‘rules’, the expectations that society put on their people and how it can really influence and shape a person.

I was saddened to hear that she felt for a particular time in her life she felt that she couldn’t be her ‘real, true, authentic’ self in her own country. This was due to the society in which she lived and the expectations and opinions imposed. I was amazed to hear that at the age of just 20 she travelled miles and miles from home to come to Ireland where she knew nobody, barely spoke the language and intended to stay for one year. I commended her bravery and thought back to when I was that age, I most definitely could not have undergone something like that! She very quickly brushed off my compliments about the terrifying nature of her decision and how courageous she was.

I thoroughly enjoyed hearing about her experiences of Ireland and what she thought of our ‘wee’ land. I quizzed her about how she found Irish society when she first came (in 2006), how she found her feet and what her impressions were as a whole. It was heartwarming to hear how positively she spoke about her experience and how friendly, helpful and genuine the people she met were. She spoke about her time working in a small country school, how the teachers and staff were so kind to her and helpful. She reminisced about how a local man who had property allowed her to stay in his apartment free of charge, without having to pay for any electrical bills. Another memory she recalled was how the staff members of the school invited her to their houses for meals and took her on tours around their beautiful countryside showing her the local attractions. She is still in touch with these people today.

I asked her whether or not she felt she could be her ‘true’ self and whether she felt comfortable expressing herself while in Ireland. I was again so glad to hear that she said she really felt she could. She feels that we are not as judgmental or as quick to form opinions of people. The Irish society is one of freedom and encourages self expression in her opinion.

I have to admit that I was slightly surprised but most definitely pleasantly surprised! I suppose it is because I have grown up here and have lived the majority of my life in Ireland that I don’t know much different! I would have thought that in so many ways our society is one that judges and that we do feel we have to follow certain norms and behaviours that are expected of us. I believe as a nation we are improving at fostering and encouraging self expression and valuing each and everyone’s individual beliefs and uniqueness. We are becoming more liberated and free.

To conclude this friend of mine made a beautiful statement yesterday and I have been thinking of it ever since. She stated:

“The People Make A Place”

I thought it was such a simple, powerful and most beautiful expression to sum up the importance of how one treats another. Because her first initial experiences of Ireland were that of a positive nature where people were genuine, expressed kindness, love and generosity she felt at home, she felt protected, that she mattered and that she could truly be herself.

A simple gesture of a smile, a wave, a hug etc can brighten up another’s day and show that you care. Give it a go today! πŸ™‚ Have a wonderful, bright and happy day!

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Earth Angels

What gifts do you possess? Have you ever met someone, feel a strong connection/bond or have someone in your life that you consider to be that extra special and at times one cannot even identify as to exactly why or pinpoint the reasons that there is a strong and unique connection or what is so special about the person?

I firmly believe we all have ‘Gifts from God’ that are unique to the individual. Why then is everyone not loving, kind, honest etc? In my opinion it is because they choose not to ‘tap’ into their particular gifts and have perhaps let life and struggles/negativity get in the way.

My eyes were only opened to this really since I met a spiritual healer. I had previously went to a Fortune Teller (probably in search of answers and to be told my ‘happy ever after’ which I didn’t get!) but once I experienced a healer I wouldn’t go back to a Fortune Teller.

Why are we all too preoccupied in searching for the answers to our lives??? I too always wanted to control events that were happening, to be that one step ahead and to know what was in store for me. This is IMPOSSIBLE. We don’t know what tomorrow will bring. We cannot go in search for answers from others and from these others that have ‘tapped’ into their gifts. We can certainly go for healing and for comforting but in my opinion we all need to find the meaning and answers that are within – as they ARE there!

Like I have stated I have a very dear and close friend who is a spiritual healer. It is such a unique and special experience. One can be reconnected with loved ones that have passed over through the healer. I have had many messages from my mother in particular and little comments said that the healer would have no clue of having had this information previously. I remember my first experience being so comforting and reassuring. It was a couple of days before my birthday and I was relayed the information that my mam was holding a cake! It was phenomenal. For those Doubting Thomas’s out there, while I was in Abu Dhabi recovering from my ACL injury  last year, going through a challenging period and being so far away from home I decided to begin a scrap book of positive affirmations, goals/dreams and special photos. Nobody knew about this book. While I was home for the summer I visited my friend and as usual got a healing done. When she stated that my mam was there and was wondering if I had started a scrap book I nearly fell off the couch and whats more she asked if there was a photo of her in it, which there was – a family photo on the front page. I was flabbergasted.

This wonderful woman has tapped into her gifts and is using them in a beneficial and loving way. I believe I have also tapped into my own true ‘gifts’ in this past year. Something has clicked within me to see that I do have particular gifts and they are worthy of revealing and showcasing to everyone I meet. In my opinion I can relate to people very well – young and old. I feel I am very empathetic and almost feel another’s emotions. Some might say these are not gifts or unique but I believe for me they are. I also do not feel ‘big headed’ in saying this!!! (Us Irish are terrible for not saying what we are good at and what makes us special!) 

I believe that every connection made is made for a reason, especially those that you feel particularly drawn to. Do you ever see a face or meet someone and feel like you’ve met each other before or have spoken before?  Do you ever hear a really ‘familiar’ voice? Are you ever thinking of someone and next thing you meet them?

In my opinion these are NOT coincidences and every encounter happens for a reason. A lesson can me learned from each and every person we meet.

“We are ALL teachers in the school that is life!” (Deirdre Ward)