Memories of Mam 💓

Are you in Pain and Hurting from the Loss of someone dear to you? Is there a special important day like ‘Mothers Day’ looming and it presses those buttons of Grief and Loneliness? .
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Loss and Grief are some of the most intricate and complex scenarios that Life throws at us. The Emotions that are attached can be varying and so difficult to handle. You can go through Anger, Frustration, Sadness, Loneliness, Peace and Happiness. .
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For me my Mothers death has been the hardest life event to date. Nothing prepares you to say that Goodbye no matter how much notice you have. For me my Grief didn’t really begin until very recently, our bodies and minds are so clever and can keep us in a Protective and Survival mode. This is so useful however at times it plays havoc with health and well-being. It’s much more beneficial to Allow those Emotions, those feelings of despair and heartache to surface and be released. .
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Notable days like Mothers Day, Fathers Day, a birthday or Anniversary can bring it all back to you in an instant. It depends on where you’re at in your healing & journey how you’re feeling about those types of days, whether you celebrate them, want to run and hide away from them or scream and roar the place down!
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This past week I’ve felt triggered by all the gifts and cards that are in ever shop you enter. A constant reminder of the (for me) two mothers that aren’t in my life. As I’m in the process of trying to contact my birth mother a myriad of emotions are surfacing. However it’s a good thing, a positive for me that I’m finally allowing myself to feel them and to let them pass through. .
Ways I’m helping myself on days like Mothers Day:
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*Celebrate: I’ve decided to mark my special Mother in some way on Sunday – go to her favourite spot, take time out to reconnect with all my beautiful memories of her.
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*Journaling/Write a Letter: Just because she’s not physically here doesn’t mean I can’t talk to get, tell her what’s going on in my life and share the gossip with her!
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*Photographs: Reminisce back my looking at the photographs of happy times, of memorable days and trips away as a family. Use them to spark conversations with my family.